I have recently been struggling with the fact that it seems many people do not realize what a blessing children are and they don't see what an opportunity they miss to mold their children's lives by not staying at home. I know some people who after finding out they were pregnant, just kind of looked at it as if this was the next step in life, but weren't really very excited about it. (I can see not being immediately excited if you hadn't planned to get pregnant, but I can't imagine not being excited after a couple of months.) Instead they focus on the fact that a baby will be so much work and they won't be able to do whatever they want. The woman may focus on the fact that she will get "fat" and that her body will never be the same. It never occurs to them to focus on the blessing they are about to receive, whether they planned it or not.
It amazes me how many people don't think twice about going right back to work after having their baby and taking the baby to day care. I do realize that it is not always financially possible for a mother to stay home, but too many people don't even THINK about staying home. The "normal" thing to them is to just go back to work and send the baby to day care. This happens so often in the church also. These are the people that should realize how blessed they are to have children and that they are truly a gift from God, but instead they look at it just the same way that the world does.
I have really been struggling with this. I am blessed every day by my little Pumpkin, even on the days that I don't know how I'll make it till the time Daddy gets home. EVERY DAY there is SOMETHING that is a blessing to me. Even if its just his little smile. No I don't have the same body I had before having a baby and yes, often times I wish those stretch marks would go away, but all in all I realize it was worth it. I wouldn't give up my Pumpkin to get my stretch mark-free stomach back...NO CHANCE!
I also see everyday how important it is for me to be home with him, I am the main person (and his Daddy) who is molding his character and beliefs. If I wasn't doing it, who would be? And what would they be teaching him?
Couples are not always able to have a baby when they want to. It's not something that you decide you want and it just happens like that (not always). There are many, many couples who are traveling down a road of wondering when and if they will get pregnant. There are many women who would LOVE to be getting "fat" with a baby. There are many couples who would rather be stuck at home with a fussy baby than able to go out with friends and do what they want, while wondering if there will ever be a baby to stay home with...
I have friends on both sides of this issue and with both opposing views. I struggle with what to say to the ones that are "disappointed" about having a baby and can only pray for the Lord's will in the lives of the ones who are hoping for a baby.
"Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate."
"When a woman is giving birth, she has sorrow because her hour has come, but when she has delivered the baby, she no longer remembers the anguish, for joy that a human being has been born into the world."
"Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change."