Monday, August 27, 2012

Too Tolerant?!?

It's not a newsflash that our world has become super tolerant of many, many things. We are constantly told that we need to accept and be tolerant of different beliefs and lifestyles. If we tell someone that what they are doing or how they are living is wrong, then we are simply labeled as intolerant, right winged, narrow minded people.
But I must ask you, did Jesus tip-toe around the difficult subject of pointing out peoples wrong doings? Did He simply pull them into a big hug and act as if they had done nothing wrong?
Here is what Jesus said to the woman at the well. (To read the whole account go to John 4)
"He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.”
17 “I have no husband,” she replied.
Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. 18 The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”
-John 4:16-18
Jesus bluntly pointed out that she did not have a husband, but in fact had FIVE husbands and was now with a SIXTH man!
I'm not saying we should go around telling everyone what they are doing is wrong, but I do feel that we (as in the church) have become much too tolerant of what is going on around us. If we can't go to one of our fellow Christians and Lovingly point out that there is wrong doing in their life, are we truly following Jesus' leading?? We don't need to condemn them, but in a Christlike manner, I believe we should go to them and point out that what they are doing or are involved in is not what God would want them to be doing.
We can still pull them into a big hug and let them know that we are praying for them and we are concerned for them.
The main thing that I have been struggling with is that if we don't say anything, is it just as bad as if we were doing the wrong thing? Because I feel like, by not saying anything we are accepting and condoning the behavior.
Due to some recent events involving some family members and church members, I have started to think about this topic more and more. I don't know how to go about bringing up the topic of their wrong doings, but at the same time feel as if I am also in the wrong for not saying anything.

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  1. That is a really tough one. I do agree that we can (and should) approach people in a loving, Christ-like manner when they're engaging in a destructive lifestyle. But you're right that it's SO hard! I wish I had a good answer on how to talk to loved ones about those things..this is an area I personally struggle with too. I will be praying for you, that God speaks to your heart and reveals His intention for you with those personal situations. ((HUGS))

    1. Thanks Brittney!! This is something that I just keep going back to in my mind and I don't really know how to handle it. It is just such a "sticky" situation! I will be praying for you too. (I've been reading your blog and I'm praying and hoping with you that everything goes well!)