Wednesday, November 14, 2012

Distorted view of submission

How many of you tensed up just seeing that word? For women, it seems that the word submission makes us feel powerless and afraid.
Let's see what God says to wives about submission.
"Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord."
Ephesians 5:22
When we read that, don't we quickly try to pretend that we didn't see it and quickly move on? Or try to make every excuse in the world, that that is not what it means in today's world?
Well, women, I'm sorry to be the one to break this to you, but God means what He says in His Word and when He said submit to your husband, He meant just that. Did you catch the end of that verse? "As you do to the Lord", we never question our submission to God; after all He's God! But we are to submit to our husbands in the same way.
Now in today's society, I believe that men are somewhat to blame for the shift in women's view of submission. Men are generally not MEN anymore. Many men do not step up to the plate and take their role of leadership (whether that be anything from spiritual leader to head of the house) seriously.
Let's look at what God says to husbands regarding their wife.
"25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
Ephesians 5:25-33
God tells husbands to love their wives just like Christ loved the church and therefore gave himself for her and also says that husbands should love their wives as much as they love themselves. Like it goes on to say, in marriage we are made ONE FLESH. This means that men, would never want to take their role of leader and abuse the fact that the wife submits to him. All his decisions would equally consider his wishes and his wife's wishes, because in reality they are now the same, "one flesh" through marriage.
Now see why I say that men are partially to blame for the woman's view of submission. Men abuse their power too often today and that is not what God planned. If we all read the Bible and lived out exactly what the Ephesians 5:22-33 verses say, men (in general) would treat their wives like gold and women would have no problem submitting because they would know that every decision that the man made, would be made knowing that the wife is an equal part of him.
Now, I've been pretty tough on our men, so let me get back to us women. Perhaps if we stepped back and gave men more of a chance to exercise their leadership, maybe they would take on that role naturally. God made men with a natural desire to lead and be in charge (He also made some women with those characteristics, and they are taking the job away from their husbands) and given the chance, I believe more men would take the gift and run with it. We have to be willing to tell our husbands what we think about the present situation, discuss it, and trust that in the end he will make the decision he feels will be best for BOTH of us. We have to TRUST, after all, we trusted him enough to marry him. Now why can't we trust him enough to decide whether we pay off the car or the house first?! (Okay, so I don't know what exactly we're trusting him with today, but that's my example!)
It's really not that hard to swallow, when you see where God was coming from when He commanded us to submit.


  1. Thank you for posting this - I know it's not an easy subject - it takes courage to speak such awesome Biblical Truths!:)

    I could not agree with you more. This is actually an area God's been convicting me about lately; I realized with our life changes lately I'd been trying to fill the role of my husband the past few weeks..and was failing and feeling resentful. By trying to lead and feeling responsible for our home, etc. I am grateful God made us the way that He did though, with the husband/wife roles we were intended for - when we submit to them life works so much better!

    Blessings to you, friend. You are in my prayers.

  2. Isn't it amazing how well things work, when we really do submit?! God knew what He was doing, but we are human and we don't always live things out the way we should/want to!

    Thanks for your kind words, I'm praying for you also!!