It's crazy when you realize that God will lead you right where you need to go, even if you never intended to end up where you are.
As I've said before, my husband and I have always wanted to adopt. Last summer, we started looking into adoption options and we have ended up in an entirely different place than I ever expected. I had never, ever considered foster care. Honestly, I always thought it was nice, but crazy and that only kind of "different" people did foster care. I mean you would have to be a little "different" to be able to do all that right? Well, people, if that is the case call me "different"! We are foster parents to two great little girls.
When we started looking into adoption, the first agency dealt with mostly older children and since we have a 3 year old, we didn't want older children so we then looked into infant adoption. For whatever reason, that didn't feel like the route for us, so then a friend said something about foster to adopt. After looking into it a little bit, we decided that that sounded like the route for us. We signed up for the classes we needed in order to get licensed and jumped through all the hoops and this spring became licensed. Through out it all, my husband started talking like he'd like to do some strictly foster care, I on the other hand wasn't so sure...I set out to adopt remember? Then one day we got a call to take a couple little girls. I said I'd talk to my husband and get back to them, but I already knew we had to say yes. How could we turn them away??
There have been some adjustments, but being parents to three is not that hard and it has been great. I know we can make a difference in their lives, no matter how small it may be and I'm excited for that!
We have also done respite for 3 other kids. After having had 5 different children in our home, I've realized that all they need is love, care and structure. I had been worried that I'd need to have some special training to help them get through whatever they've had to deal with. But you know what? They are just kids. Just like my son. Kids that need the same basic things my little boy needs.
You don't have to be some super hero type that is a therapist, counselor and shrink all rolled into one. You just need to have plenty of time to listen, give hugs and treat them like the sweet little people that they are.
Even a month ago, I wasn't sure about this whole foster parent thing, but God said trust Me and you know what? He's guiding us through everyday. Every circumstance. And He's taking us right where we need to go, even though I'm still not sure where that is.
This past year has been one of the hardest and most emotional times in my life, but God has been in control the entire time. When trust Him to do His will, is when things turn out the best anyway, so let's hang on for this crazy ride.